There is a saying ‘We are as sick as our secrets’
I have kept secrets most of my life, it is
something I learned long ago, a coping skill
to survive. In silence I created a hiding place
It had affected my behavior,
causing neglect of my children, my well
being and unhealthy relationships.
When it was brought to my attention, it
was difficult to learn how to let these
How could I create healthy behaviors,
to break the silence and find help in
dealing with these long term issues?
To let go of unforgiveness toward
those that had harmed me?
Then in some words I had read, it shared,
there is a Power greater than I that can help
us to do this, to replace learned behaviors.
‘The Four Behaviors Of Jesus’
Forgiveness (recognizing our bitterness
toward others, and ourselves, who have
offended us, and forgive them even
as He has forgiven us)
Stewardship (exercising love for others as God
Loves us, extending concern and care as we are
Intellect ( to evaluate the need to walk away
from situations that are harmful)
And the last –
Speaking out, and reaching out, (to set boundaries
when someone continues to cause conflict and
Not an easy thing to do, but when discouragement
sets in, if we can remember the words –
“He that dwells in the secret place of the
Most High, shall abide under the shadow
of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord He is
my refuge and my fortress, my God, in
Him I will trust.” Psalm 91:1-2
No longer will it be needful to dwell in the hiding
places we have created, with our secrets held in.
Our silence can be broken, as we trust in Him!